Desire & Arousal Exploration
When you don’t know what you want, or no longer feel what you used to.
Feeling disconnected from desire can feel confusing, frustrating, and isolating
Maybe you’ve lost interest in sex and you’re not sure why. Maybe your partner still wants it, and you feel the weight of that difference. Maybe you’ve never really known what arousal feels like for you and you’ve been too afraid to say it out loud.
This disconnection can show up slowly, quietly. Or it can arrive suddenly, triggered by stress, trauma, relationship shifts, or changes in your body. However it shows up, the experience is valid. And you don’t have to figure it out alone.
Why desire and arousal matter
Sexual desire is often tied to self-worth, identity, and connection. When it feels out of reach or unpredictable, it can impact your relationship with yourself and others.
Exploring desire isn’t about getting back to how things used to be. It’s about discovering what feels true for you now. In this work, we create space to gently understand what’s shifted, what’s possible, and what pleasure means for you, not what you’ve been taught it should be.
Who this work is for
This space is for anyone feeling out of sync with their desire or unsure how to express what they want. It may be for you if:
Sex feels more like a duty than a desire
You have a partner with a different libido or arousal pattern
You’re navigating hormonal changes, stress, grief, or trauma
You’ve never fully explored your own turn-ons or preferences
You’re neurodivergent, queer, or simply don’t see yourself in the standard narratives around sex
You don’t need to have the answers to start. Just the sense that something in you is ready to be heard.
What we’ll explore together
Reclaiming your relationship with desire
We’ll work together to understand how arousal shows up for you physically, emotionally, and relationally. Some things we may explore include:
Your unique desire patterns (spontaneous vs responsive desire)
What blocks or numbs arousal
The role of stress, shame, and nervous system regulation
What truly brings you pleasure, beyond expectation or performance
How to talk about desire differences in relationships
This is a collaborative process, centered in consent, care, and deep respect for your story.
Why this work can be transformational
When you understand your relationship with desire, you make space for pleasure, clarity, and intimacy that feel more aligned with who you are. This work often leads to:
Increased sexual confidence and self-awareness
More honest communication with partners
Reduced shame or anxiety around sex
A deeper connection with your body and boundaries
The ability to name what you want, and what you don’t
This isn’t about fixing you. It’s about reconnecting to something that’s always been yours.
Taking the next step
You're allowed to want more, even if you're not sure what that is yet
If this resonates with you, you're invited to begin with a complimentary consultation. We'll talk about what’s been coming up for you, what you’re hoping to understand, and whether this work feels like the right fit.